Today’s Love Bite Question . . . Can You Learn To Love Someone?

For those of us who are Seinfeld fans, we will no doubt remember the segment where the hapless George Costanza explains his trick to getting a second or third date by leaving something behind at the disinterested woman’s home.

If you are struggling to recall the segment and in particular the exchange between George and Jerry, it went something like this . . .

GEORGE: Ah, and I got a date with the sales woman. She’s got a little Marisa Tomei thing going on.

JERRY: Ahh, too bad you got a little, George Costanza thing going on.

GEORGE: I’m going out with her tomorrow, she said she had some errands to run.

JERRY: That’s a date?

GEORGE: What’s the difference? You know they way I work. I’m like a commercial jingle. First it’s a little irritating, then you hear it a few times, you’re hummin’ it in the shower, by the third date it’s (sings) “By Mennen!”.

JERRY: How do you make sure your gonna get to the third date?

GEORGE: If there’s any doubt, I do a leave-behind. Keys, gloves, scarf — I go back to her place to pick it up…(pop sound) date number two.

JERRY: That is so old. Why don’t you show up at her door in a wood horse?

Reflecting on the above one of the first things that come to mind is simply this . . . can someone grow on you to the point that you can learn to love them?  An even more interesting question is whether or not you can learn to love them enough to spend the rest of your life with them.

So what do you think?  Share your thoughts and/or your stories in the comment section below . . .



3 thoughts on “Today’s Love Bite Question . . . Can You Learn To Love Someone?

  1. George Castanza cracks me up!! I think he has to do the embarrassing things… like on the clip you posted on the blog, Jon… because he does not want to have to Be The Guy… the cool women he’s attracted to… would want to date… he would rather become an addictive “jingle”? LOL!! Remember when Marisa Tomei liked him… and he wanted to date her AND stay engaged? hahha!! ;D

    • I absolutely remember the Marisa Tomei episode to which you are referring . . . but here is an interesting thought . . . isn’t it true that the more beautiful the woman the more lonely they can be simply because men are afraid to approach them. With Costanza remember when he decided to do the opposite of what his instincts told him and landed a date with a beautiful women by telling her that he was unemployed and living with his parents. If memory serves me, this also led to his job with the Yankees.

      Would the advice of the day be to well . . . be direct 😉

  2. Is it good to be direct?… Depends on what we are talking about… there are times when it is simply nicer to say things indirectly but honestly to be civil…as long as being direct is also being kind then… absolutely!! One man told me he did not understand why his last date would not go out with him again… he told her his mouth tasted like the inside of a sardine can because he wanted to eat a mint before kissing her… then she made a face at him. She told him she doesn’t kiss on the 1st date and hugged him goodbye. She didn’t answer his calls after that date.
    But I wonder if she was thinking… Why didn’t he just eat the mint then kiss her? If that’s how direct or Brutally honest he is on a 1st date… could you imagine what he would tell her about after 10 years of marriage? Ewwww! Some things a lady just does not want to know. LOL!! ;D

    From talking with divorced people (that had some spouse deceptions issues before or during the divorce process) when on the dating scene again… the simple realization that they are speaking to a New someone that is being Completely HONEST about himself or herself… is so Refreshing their heart feels like doing a little jig!! LOL!!

    So I think it’s more about Honesty, like George revealing he lives with his parents and is unemployed; than directness but with some couples Direct could be their preferred way to communicate… I guess I’m saying there’s no right or wrong… as long as they communicate with honesty and kindness… and good breath! haha!! ;D

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